Tricia’s Way

Healing & Building, Strength & Truth

 

On this journey I have discovered many of my own philosophies, resources and tools that have aided me in the process of healing and building, strength and truth.

 

It began with listening.

Really listening.

To the deepest part of me.

 

When I chose to listen, acknowledge and surrender to the fact that I was broken my truth began its reveal. It has been a long road filled with great pain. Below are some of my personal strategies, methods, tools and resources. Take what resonates with you and set out on your journey of self discovery.

 

Shhhhhh

I needed to quiet the chatter around me, quiet the toxic outsiders who were so vocal about what they thought I should do and who I should be. These toxics brought in a lot of negativity which was holding me back, making me doubt and causing me to stay minimized.

I am a positive person – I try to see the positive in every situation. Even when I’m in the midst of a personal tornado I know it won’t last forever and I know there will be great learning.

Listening to myself and choosing my thoughts carefully helps me to stay positive and move forward. When negative thought patterns that once held me back try to creep in and replay themselves dangerously in my head I say out loud, “Shhhhhhhh. Thank you for coming, we don’t need you any more. My heart knows better. You are no longer needed.”

 

See

See what is working and what is not.

To open my eyes and see how I was being treated by those around me. Release relationships that don’t support and seek out those that do.

Become aware of the signs being sent to me. I am not religious, I am spiritual. I like to eat from the spiritual buffet of life, taking beliefs from Catholicism, Hinduism, Buddhism and Kabbalah that resonate with me. I also sprinkle in gods and goddesses from history. I seek out threads of truth that speak to me, typically of love, awareness, truth and empowerment. This allows me to live by the laws and beliefs that resonate deep within me.

 

Hear

Words, lyrics and lines from movies and songs speak to me. I take them as messages being sent directly to me.

They drive me to move ahead.

Confirm where I’m at.

Give me clarity of mind, spirit and path.

Validate my truth.

Empower and fuel my drive and passion.

TEACH ME TO FORGIVE AND BE THANKFUL.

Tap into my fears – head on.

Release the stories that no longer resonate and rejoice new melodies that sing in my heart.

Dialog I needed to hear.

Words that were hard to speak, bare, absorb.

Questions that were posed, unanswered, on hold.

Many of these I listened to over and over.

Sang to myself in the mirror looking into my own eyes seeking answers.

Made into ringtones so I heard the messages over and over.

I got strength, clarity and courage.

Some of my favorites:

Nemo:When Dorie is singing to Marline – one of my ringtones, when I need to just keep swimming:

“Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming…”

“Right Back Where We Started From” by Maxine Nightingale – one of my ringtones:

“It’s all right and it’s coming on. We gotta get right back to where we started from… Love is good. Love can be strong. We gotta get right back to where we started from”

“Home” by Phillip Phillip – one of my ringtones when I want to get grounded and focus on what is really important:

“As we roll down this unfamiliar road… Settle down it’ll all be clear. Don’t pay no mind to the demons they fill you with fear. Trouble it might drag you down. You get lost you can always be found…”

“It’s Amazing” by Jem – THE ENTIRE SONG – I sing to myself:

“Do it now. You know who you are. You feel it in your heart and your burning and wishin. At first wait, won’t get it on a plate. You’re gonna have to work for it harder and harder… knocking on the doors with rejection and you’ll see cause if its meant to be nothing can compare to deserving your dreams. It’s amazing. It’s amazing. All that you can do. Its amazing. Makes my heart sing. Now its up to you. Patience now, frustrations in the air. And people who don’t care well its gonna get you down. And you’ll fall, yes you will hit a wall. But get back on your feet. And you’ll be stronger and smarter….Don’t be afraid. Don’t let your dreams slip away. Determination using your gift… Never give up, never let it die. Trust your instincts and most importantly. You’ve got nothing to lose. So just go for it.”

“Pocket Full of Sunshine” by Natasha Bedingfield – I sing to another…

“I’ve got a love and I know that it’s all mine.. Do what you want, but you’re never gonna break me, sticks and stones are never gonna shake me… Take me away.. To better days… Wish that you could, but you ain’t gonna own me do anything to control me… there’s no more lies. And the darkness is light. And nobody cries there’s only butterflies… I smile up to the sky. I know I’ll be alright.”

“Thank You” (Faletinme Be Mice Elf Agin) – a very specific ringtone for a specific person. Turning anger/frustration into gratitude:

“I want to thank you falettinme. Be mice elf agin. Thank you falettinme. Be mice elf agin”

“Pirate Bones” by Natasha Bedingfield – I sing to another:

“I could carry on telling you wanna hear. Till my voice is gone. But if I finally get to the place that I think is home. And I don’t belong. What’s the point in it? Where’s the benefit? When I’m gaining all but I’m losing it.”

“Push” by Madonna – I sing this to myself in the mirror:

“You push me. To go the extra mile. You push me. When it’s difficult to smile. You push me. A better version of myself. You push me. Only you and no one else… Every move I make. Every step I take. Everything I do… You push me. All I wanna do is cry. You push me. When it’s hard for me to try… To go the extra mile. When it’s difficult to smile. A better version of myself.”

“Question Exiting” by Rihanna – I ask myself:

“Is this my limit? Can I endure some more?”

“Real Girl” by Mutya Buena – Me singing to the world:

“All I can do is be true to myself. I don’t need permission from nobody else… I know exactly who I am… Baby this is who I am. Don’t need you to understand. ‘Cause everything is right where it should be. It won’t be long til you know about me… ‘Cause I don’t give a… ‘Cause everythings just how it should be. And it won’t be long till you know about me…”

“Rolling In The Deep” by Adele – I sing to another:

“There’s a fire starting in my heart. Reaching a fever pitch, it’s bringing me out the dark. Finally, I can see you crystal clear… Don’t underestimate the things that I will do… Turn my  sorrow in to treasured gold.”

“Bottle It Up” by Sara Bareilles – I sing to myself:

“I am aiming to be somebody this somebody trusts. With a delicate soul… except as soon as you start. To  make room for the parts. That aren’t you it gets harder to bloom in the garden of Love love love love….”

 

My Body

Trusting my body.

It was telling my story.

Where to go, what was wrong, how to heal.

My ailments, issues and insecurities were all telling the story.

Silently screaming: where there were blocks, unresolved issues, emotional hurdles.

What I felt was my guide.

This was when I discovered more Eastern based philosophies to inner health. The universe, karma, love, meditation and emotional healing are just a few that interested me. Actually feeling the feelings as they came and not dismissing them was huge for me. Go straight into the storm. Feel. Release. Move forward.

I read a handful of books that taught me much needed lessons and gave me information that helped me to understand where I was, who I was and how I got there. I read and reread many of them as I needed til I finally ‘got it’.

The Power is Within You by Louise L. Hay - One of the most powerful books I’ve read. It allowed me to tap into what healing needed to be done – forgiveness, accountability, gratitude, release, power, truth. One of my most recommended sources of healing!

Heal Your Body A – Z by Louise L. Hay - I found this book utterly fascinating! My wholistic chiropractor uses this as one of her tools. The connection of emotion and body is precise and strong. What hurts your physical body is a direct connection to injury, DNA or emotional health! This book speaks to the emotional sickness and how it shows up in your physical body. Very cool!

Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath - VERY interesting book. The reader takes an online test and receives a personalized strengths report. I loved it!

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman - This book really helped me to understand my love language and how past loves weren’t good fits because we didn’t speak the same language. It was eye opening to me.

You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L. Hay - A great resource for healing.

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz - Helped me be a better me.

 

Release

Someone once said that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. I love that.

For me, releasing fear has been one of my most challenging hurdles. What I do know is that I absolutely had to embark on this journey of creating and developing the StylishShe clothing line, launching InspireShe, the InspireShe Jewelry line and writing my memoir which I am working on.

It wasn’t an option.

I know this.

It’s as if these initiatives were being developed through me so I could share my journey and story.

This journey has been thrilling and terrifying.

It is mine.

I am proud of it.

What I have accomplished, what is still to come.

My constant and continuous evolution has pushed me harder and further than ever before. I have no regrets. I trust that no matter where I go, what I uncover, what I develop, it is my way, my destiny, my ultimate truth.

Releasing fear, judgement and worry is the best thing for me. They don’t serve my highest purpose. I acknowledge them and release them, they are not needed.

 

Cleaning Out

Cleaning out and GIVING away gave me clarity, a sense of freedom and helped those in need at the same time. It is amazing what you don’t miss!

 

Go Deep

Meditation is something that I do my own way. I sit outside on a cushion, pool-side, with my hot tea and my meditation soundtrack, Chanting Om, Music for Deep Meditation. I do this for at least ten minutes a day, but often for much longer. I find peace and gain knowledge. Ideas pour from me. The quiet of nature calms me and gives me a feeling of connectedness to the world.

 

Gratitude

I can not tell you how thankful I am for the the demise of my marriage and life I was living. To the many characters who played their intricate and critical roles in the story; those who I hated and blamed, I am now immensely grateful for you. The wreckage was extensive, expansive and it cut me… to the deepest part of me.

Thank you for letting me be myself.

Without this utter devastation I would NEVER have embarked on this journey. I would not be developing myself, my life and my future. I am so thankful that I am finding me, uncovering me, exposing me, empowering me… TRUSTING ME.

THANK YOU!